The flower doesn't get pollinated based on how it feels about itself, it only has to be open for the bee to be drawn to it.
Easier said than done, it's not always easy to be open, when we have been hurt in the past, when we are cautious about others, or we feel vulnerable. It's not easy to be open when we are concerned about how we may or may not be judged.
It may not be easy, but it's essential to be open. This can be done in various ways, but the best way to remain open is to consider all of the amazing things that are currently in your life. Look around and see whatever bit of nature you can. Marvel at the strength and vitality and resilience it has. You are not outside of nature, you are also made from the same substance that all matter is made from, and when you are in touch with your natural state of being, you will be able to live your life in spontaneous, powerful and resilient ways. Whatever comes at you won't matter, because you will be able to handle it. True power doesn't come from being hard and rigid, but from being open and flexible.